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Peace, Love, and Good Health to ALL!



Let’s Help Each Other to THRIVE!

I just got back from picking some delicious tangerines from my next door neighbor’s tree.  And I had to think, that just a year ago this tree had only 3-5 very small tangerines on it, but enough to let me delightfully recognize, from looking out of our 2nd floor window, that it was a tangerine tree!  I had already celebrated the existence of the beautiful lemon tree, but hadn’t paid attention to any of the other trees in his yard.

(As you may, or not know, LEMONS ARE PRICELESS when it comes to maintaining good health, so I have the fresh juice of one or two lemons in my water just about every morning!  Jethro Kloss says in his famous herbal book, “BACK TO EDEN”, that if you drink the juice of 4 fresh lemons every day, then you will never be sick!!!) 

So, back to the Tangerine tree: I could tell that my neighbor was too busy to think about any of the trees in his yard, so one day, I told him that I noticed that he had a tangerine tree in his yard that needed some water to make it grow and produce fruit.  I offered to water it on a regular basis, so that “we” would have tangerines to eat, and he said the magic words, “Go right ahead!”  I immediately started watering and giving the tree, Citrus Plant Food, and now it has at least 60-100 tangerines happily growing on it!  I like the fruit to be totally orange when I pick it, so I schedule “Picking-Parties” every two or three weeks!  Last party yielded about 20 tangerines because that was the first harvest, but today, I only picked nine…just enough for me to enjoy immediately and save a few for the grandchildren. 

As I was cheerfully eating this tasty fruit of delight, I thought that the tree was in the Survival mode, just a year ago when I first recognized it, but now that it received some LOVE, CARE AND SUPPORT, it kicked into “Thrivival” Mode,  very much like children…and YOU and ME!   We have a lot in common with Plants, such that, as we embrace them… we embrace ourselves! 😀




I received this email from Laura Silva and it just reminded me that none of us has ANYTHING to complain about…EVER!  In fact, when you start REALLY focusing on all the things that you need to be thankful for, it would take you hours, and maybe even days, non-stop, to list them all!

Live a DAILY life of GRATITUDE and APPRECIATION, and you will discover that you should SMILE often… because LIFE IS GOOD…ALL THE TIME!

Peace and Blessings to ALL,


I’m in the 7% … are you?

This email is just a wonderful reminder that we CREATE our own REALITY with our individual perceptions and beliefs!  Now, more than ever before, we need to show love and gratitude to everyone we encounter, and work together in harmony to achieve our collective positive goals and wishes for the world! Do you see the world as a living “hell” or a “heaven on earth”?

Peace, love and blessings to all!


—– Original Message —–


A Holy man was having a conversation with the Lord one day and said,‘Lord, I would like to know what Heaven and Hell are like.’

The Lord led the holy man to two doors.

He opened one of the doors and the holy man looked in.

In the middle of the room was a large round table..

In the middle of the table was a large pot of stew,

Which smelled delicious and made the holy man’s mouth water.

��The people sitting around the table were thin and sickly.

They appeared to be famished. They were holding spoons with very long handles that were strapped to their arms and each found it possible to reach into the pot of stew and take a spoonful.

But because the handle was longer than their arms, they could not get the spoons back into their mouths.

The holy man shuddered at the sight of their misery and suffering.

The Lord said, ‘You have seen Hell. They went to the next room and opened the door. It was exactly the same as the first one.

There was the large round table with the large pot of stew which made the holy man’s mouth water.

The people were equipped with the same long-handled spoons, but here the people were well nourished and plump,���laughing and talking.

���The holy man said, ‘I don’t understand.

��‘It is simple,’ said the Lord. ‘It requires but one skill.

You see, they have learned to feed each other.

The greedy think only of themselves.’

When Jesus died on the cross, he was thinking of you.

��Its estimated 93% won’t forward this.

If you are one of the 7% who will, forward this with the title ‘7%’.

I’m in the 7%

Remember that

I will always share my��spoon with you.


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Pain Relief Summit Starts Tonight

For those of you who may experience pain, or knows someone who does, this Pain Summit may be of interest!

Peace and blessings!


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> Date: Mon, 3 Oct 2011 14:57:23 +0000
> Hello Friends,
> Just a quick reminder that the “Pain Relief World
> Summit” begins TONIGHT.
> If you or someone you love suffers from physical pain,
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> folks who did the ground-breaking “Tapping World Summit”
> earlier this year.
> Click on this link to watch a short video on the
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> loved ones who suffer from physical pain.
> Love and Light,
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> – Releasing Pain Caused by an Accident
> – Eliminating Joint Paint and Stiffness
> – Tapping to Address Pain Associated with Cancer
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Bruce Lipton/Robert Williams Video

I would like you to take the time to look at this video VERY CAREFULLY, because both presenters, Bruce and Robert, are giving some very powerful information that can and WILL change your life, if you understand the concepts and take action!  I also attached Robert Williams’ Book – Psych-K  for your in-depth understanding!  Enjoy!
Let me know what you think after you watch it!  Email me: YourNaturalCancerCures@gmail.com  
I’m going to the 4-day Retreat in San Francisco next month.  Hope to see you there!



> Here is the link to the video:
> http://spirit2000.com/bruceliptonretreat.htm


The Missing



In Your Life,

By Robert M. Williams, M.A.

ISBN 0-9759354-0-2

5 star must reading.   [The following is what I highlighted during my read of this excellent book — I recommend it on my Top-ten List of Peace resources.  My purpose in providing them is to interest you, the reader, and hope that you will obtain and read the complete work and take the Workshop.  To properly understand the highlights, you need to take the Beginners and Advanced Workshops and read the guides to put them in the proper context. For information on PSYCH-K® and to find a class in your area visit www.psych-k.com   ]




The perception that our lives are controlled by our genes is so fundamental to our civilization, that this dogma is incorporated into the most elemental level of a child’s education. The “genes control life” message is continuously repeated through every level of higher education, from grade school up through graduate and medical school. The general public has been conditioned to believe that the human body represents an exquisite genetically controlled automaton. In support of this belief, we attribute our abilities, and more importantly, our disabilities, to the character of our inherited gene codes.


Since genes apparently control the traits of an individual’s life, and since we had no say in which genes we were provided at conception, we might rightly consider ourselves victims of heredity.


We have been programmed to accept that we are subservient to the power of our genes in creating the experience of our lives. The world is filled with people who are in constant fear that, on some unsuspecting day, their genes are going to turn on them. Consider the masses of people who perceive their genes as ticking time bombs, waiting for cancer, or some other life-threatening catastrophic disease to explode in their life. Millions of others attribute their failing health issues, such as cardiovascular disease, to inadequacies of their body’s biochemical mechanisms. Distraught parents readily blame unruly behavior on “chemical imbalances” in their child’s brain.


The current mainstream scientific dogma insists that we are recipients of hand-me-down genetic codes that we are apparently unable to change. Consequently, we find ourselves not only victims of heredity, but powerless with regard to our ability to “reprogram” our fate. In assuming the role of powerless victims, we may rightfully deny responsibility for our ill health, both physical and mental. Unfortunately, this denial results in a tremendous amount of human suffering and disease.


So much for the bad news.


The good news is that, in fact, we are not victims of our genes. Astonishing advances in physics and cell biology have recently toppled the philosophical underpinnings of conventional biomedicine. A radically new understanding emerging at the cutting edge of cell science recognizes that the environment, and more specifically, our perception of the environment, directly controls our behavior and the activity of our genes. Since our “perceptions” may be accurate or inaccurate, we may more appropriately refer to them as—beliefs. Beliefs control our biology, not our genes.

The new advances in physics and biology lead us to a future of hope and self-determination. Rob Williams’ simple and profoundly empowering book sheds new light on an important shift in our understanding of the human mind and its affect on biology and behavior. The psychology of personal change presented in the following pages represents a giant step forward toward freeing ourselves from the limitations of outdated concepts about personal growth and development. It points the way toward becoming masters of our destiny instead of victims of our genes. When applied, these principles can dramatically accelerate the expression of our true nature as spiritual beings of unlimited potential.


Bruce H. Lipton, Ph.D. – Cellular Biologist

Author of The Biology of Belief


For more information about Dr. Lipton’s publications and presentations, visit his web site at www.brucelipton.com.





Trying Smarter, Not Harder


If you are like many people, you have tried hard to become a better person over the years. But, when it comes to accomplishing your goals in life, sometimes it can feel like you are your own worst enemy instead of your own best friend. This inner conflict can keep you from having a life filled with joy, happiness, and peace. Most people meet this inner conflict by doubling their efforts to overcome the resistance they feel inside. But, sometimes trying harder isn’t the answer. The following story illustrates the point.


I’m sitting in a quiet room at the Millcroft Inn, a peaceful little place hidden back among the pine trees about an hour out of Toronto . It’s just past noon, late July, and I’m listening to the desperate sounds of a life-or-death struggle going on a few feet away.


There’s a small fly burning out the last of its short life’s energies in a futile attempt to fly through the glass of the windowpane. The whining wings tell the poignant story of the fly’s strategy: Try harder.


But it’s not working.


His frenzied effort offers no hope for survival. Ironically, the struggle is part of the trap. It is impossible for the fly to try hard enough to succees at breaking through the glass. Nevertheless, this little insect has staked its life on reaching its goal through raw effort and determination.


This fly is doomed. It will die there on the windowsill.


Across the room, ten steps away, the door is open. Ten seconds of flying time and this small creature could reach the outside world it seeks. With only a fraction of the effort now being wasted, it could be free of this self-imposed trap. The breakthrough possibility is there. It would be so easy.


Why doesn’t the fly try another approach, something dramatically different? How did it get so locked in on the idea that this particular route and determined effort offer the most promise for success? What logic is there in continuing until death to seek a breakthrough with more of the same?

No doubt this approach makes sense to the fly. Regrettably, it’s an idea that will kill.


Trying harder isn’t necessarily the solution to achieving more. It may not offer any real promise for getting what you want out of life. Sometimes, in fact, it’s a big part of the problem.


If you stake your hopes for a breakthrough on trying harder than ever, you may kill your chances for success.1


As the saying goes, “If you keep doing what you’ve been doing, you’ll keep getting what you’ve been getting.”


There is a better way to find the missing peace in your life than to double your efforts and try harder. That’s what this book is about.



1 This story is used with full permission of Pritchett Rummler-Brache. It first appeared in a booklet called You2. All rights are reserved.






Sayings remain meaningless until

They are embodied in habits.

— Kahlil Gibran


Making Wisdom a Habit Instead of an Effort


Ever wonder why your life doesn’t look like the wisdom and inspiration you’ve gleaned from all those self-help books you’ve read, the workshops and lectures you’ve attended, the audiotapes you’ve listened to, or the therapy sessions you’ve had? Okay, let’s assume you’ve read all the right books, attended countless workshops, and listened to the most powerful “gurus” on the planet. Why is there a nagging suspicion that things are pretty much the same as they’ve always been? You know: the relationship-prosperity-self-esteem-weight-loss-job-burnout-can’t seem-to-get-my-life-together issues! It’s not something most of us want to admit because we often invest a lot of time and money on self-improvement and still end up blaming ourselves for not having enough willpower or commitment to accomplish our goals. In short, we just aren’t trying hard enough! Or, if we decide that we aren’t the problem, then it must be the fault of other people, like a spouse, a boss, our parents, the society, even God. And, if those explanations don’t satisfactorily sidestep the real issue, we can always count on bad luck, bad Karma, bad genes, or fate as “can’t-do-anything-about-it” excuses to settle for a life of quiet resignation, resentment, and hopelessness. Sure, most of us put on a “happy face” every day, but who are we kidding?


Making Peace with Yourself


This book is about the missing piece (peace) between trying harder and trying smarter, between great insights and a great life, between acquiring wisdom and putting that wisdom into action in your life. It explains why the wisdom you possess doesn’t always show up in your life the way you want it to, and why doing more of what you have been doing may be part of the problem rather than part of the solution. Finally, it explains how this frustration, when turned into knowledge, can free you from the tyranny of trying harder. The information in this book changed my life. Based on years of experience using PSYCH-KTM (pronounced sigh-kay) with others and myself, I am confident this new understanding about the process of change, coupled with the skills to put it into action, holds the same potential for you.


What You Can Expect from This Book


“Knowing is not enough; we must apply.

Willing is not enough; we must do.”

— Johann Wolfgang von Goethe


Because you are reading this book, chances are you are interested in improving your life and becoming a better human being. I hope the information and insights you find here will be compelling enough for you to take the next step, to learn how to put this information into action so you can create the life you really want and deserve. Reading the book is an important first step in a two-step transformational process.


Step one is getting the necessary information to decide why to take the actions suggested here. Step two is learning how to put the information into action, and is an interactive, experiential process. The PSYCH-K belief change techniques referred to in this book can best be experienced by way of private sessions or workshops taught by Certified PSYCH-KTM Instructors, nationally and internationally.2

2 Visit the PSYCH-K Web site at www.psych-k.com for a list of Certified Instructors in your area. For the business complement of PSYCH-K, see www.per-k.com.

Imagine trying to learn how to swim by reading a book. Sure, you can learn about swimming, but it’s not like actually getting in the water. Books are excellent vehicles for conveying information, insights, and inspiration, but they aren’t as good at conveying information, insights, and inspiration, but they aren’t as good at conveying knowledge based on direct interactive experience. For that reason, this book is more about “why-to-do” PSYCH-K than “how-to-do” PSYCH-K.


Despite the intrinsic limitations of a book format to facilitate experiences best learned through an interactive group setting, a few significant exceptions to the rule exist and are included in the book. For instance, you will learn a simple, direct, and verifiable process for communicating directly with your subconscious mind in order to discover pre-programmed, hidden beliefs from your past that may be sabotaging your success and happiness. Also, you will learn how to set life goals in such a way that they can become more like self-fulfilling prophecies than day-to-day struggles!


In addition, I set out the essential information and insights necessary to understand what is missing in many of the most popular self-help approaches you may have already tried, including visualization, affirmations, positive thinking, willpower, and so on. I am suggesting a new and more effective method of achieving your personal goals—a process that gives you the know-how and tools you need to create the life you really want. A process can free your mind from the prison of limiting beliefs.


Welcome to the real world of possibilities instead of the pre-programmed world of limitations!


Chapter 1


The Roots of PSYCH-K


People wish to be settled. Only as far as they are

Unsettled is there any hope for them.

–Ralph Waldo Emerson


Is This As Good As It Gets?


It was 1983. I don’t remember the month, or even the season. I recall only the circumstances. Sitting in my office at the cable television company, I stared into space. For the last couple of years I’d pushed thoughts of “How much longer?” and “Something’s got to give!” far into a back room of my awareness. The door to that room had been ajar for some time, and I’d sneaked glimpses into its dim recesses. Why, I’d wondered, was I now earning three times the money I had made in my first job yet feeling three times worse? Certainly one of the main reasons I’d taken my current job was to reduce my commuting time from several hours a day to just a few minutes, but a convenient commute was no longer a satisfactory trade-off for my need to contribute something more to people’s lives than I could managing a cable TV system. The fat-wallet, tin-life feeling became overwhelming, putting me in one of those life-assessment moments, where in the privacy of my own mind I could be completely honest. This was not unfamiliar territory for me, having known such moments more than a few times in the previous several years. The social trappings for happiness were all there: a wife, two children, a home in the suburbs, and a combined income that afforded the creature comforts of middle class America . And yet, something vital was missing.


Until that moment, my ability to reason had been my most effective tool for navigating through the whitewater of life. Indeed, reason and logic were responsible for most of what I had created, and yet simultaneously I knew these seemingly all-important faculties were no match for the deep feelings of emptiness sitting in my belly. Logic, in fact, was making things worse, reminding me that I should be happy, because I had what most people wanted. Who was I to complain? The real issue wasn’t about me rocking the boat, because the boat was rocking me!


I sat at my desk, unaware of anything on that day but the simple fact that for two years I had been trying not to rock the boat and now the boat was sinking! Something had to change. I was not clear about what that something was, but a sense of despair at impending disaster haunted me.


I had reached a point of no return. In the past, it had never gone that far. All of a sudden I was in touch with what was at the very core of my being, beyond the boundaries of my personality and the day-to-day social concerns that are the domain of logic. I became aware that the greatest joy I derived from my current job came from working with people and that it was only a matter of time before I would have to make a change. Those two realizations catapulted me out of a fourteen-year business career and the financial security it provided.


Compelled by a persistent sense of urgency, I enrolled in a graduate program for counseling at the University of Colorado . Over the next three years I completed the course work at night and received a master’s degree in counseling in 1986. During that time I realized that the world of business and the world of counseling were worlds apart! Whereas business stressed results, counseling emphasized the process itself. Success in business, often measured as profit and loss, was quantifiable. Counseling, on the other hand, was difficult to quantify in any concrete way, and the process could take years before results were apparent. Yet I loved it.


As I grew as a therapist, I found myself not always agreeing with the business philosophy of just doing whatever it took to achieve success, yet I was equally disturbed by the overemphasis on the process of psychotherapy, with so little attention being paid to achieving results. This widening schism forced me to look outside my university training for more results-oriented approaches to my future profession as a psychotherapist, a search that led me through a myriad of alternative therapies such as Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), hypnosis, Educational Kinesiology, Touch for Health, Reiki, and a plethora of other contemporary and ancient healing techniques. I read countless books, attended numerous lectures and workshops, and listened to the best and the worst of the self-help gurus. Out of this primordial soup of therapeutic approaches I eventually arrived at the conclusions I share with you in this book.


Finally, in 1986 I left the business world to begin a private practice in psychotherapy, struggling for two years to find better ways to help my clients make positive changes in their lives. I was frustrated by the limitations of the old counseling formula of Insight + Willpower = Change. Many of my clients, up to their eyeballs in insights about how and why they had become the way they were, were still not experiencing the satisfying lives they sought. I helped them develop mental and behavioral strategies for moving beyond their current limitations, yet the problems persisted despite their motivation and efforts to change. They knew the right things to do, yet they weren’t doing the right things. Something was missing. But what? I did know that just using insight and willpower alone seldom resulted in real and lasting change. I believed my clients deserved a better return on the time and money they were investing than I was capable of offering with the techniques I learned in graduate school.


My search for synthesis finally came to fruition early in December 1988. I remember that day clearly. I was putting together a marketing flyer for a workshop I had done several times before. With money tight and Christmas shopping in full swing, I was counting on the workshop to ease the extra expenses of the season. I took the master flyer I’d prepared on my computer to the local printer. I drove home and began to fold them for mailing when I noticed the dates of the workshop were missing: 150 flyers and no dates! I considered hand-correcting them, but my sense of perfectionism would not permit it. So the only option was correcting the master copy and going back to the printer for more copies.


Home again with dates in place, I began the folding job once more. When I was halfway through the task, my eyes caught the registration section. I couldn’t believe what I saw—or rather didn’t see. I had left off the times of the workshop. In disbelief I stared at that flyer for five full minutes, thinking maybe if I stared long enough I could make the times magically appear! I had never made that mistake on the flyers before. Soon I went from being stunned to being angry—deeply angry. I was faced with the same dilemma of correcting the copies by hand or starting all over again. I had already wasted 150 flyers, yet couldn’t bear the thought of sending out anything that looked unprofessional. Furious with myself for being so careless, frustrated by the economic pressures of the Christmas season, and plagued by an ominous feeling that something or someone other than just myself was sabotaging me, I went out to the backyard to let the December air cool the rage in my flushed face. Still fuming, I sat on a half-frozen lawn chair and closed my eyes. Through clenched teeth I said out loud, “Okay God, if you don’t want me to do what I am doing, what do you want me to do?”


I sat in silence, not really expecting an answer. But, to my astonishment, within minutes the details of a pattern for changing subconscious beliefs showed up in my head. I could barely believe what I was experiencing. When the information stopped coming, I jumped up, ran to my computer, and feverishly began typing. In a matter of a few minutes the information in my head was gone and I was reading what I had typed: thirteen paired belief statements and the complete instructions for their use!3 Even though certain components of the pattern were recognizable as ideas with which I was already familiar, most of them were new. In fact, the entire format and sequence of steps was completely unique. This experience was remarkable, to say the least! It became the first in a series of patterns I received in a similar manner over the next several months. These unique processes constitute the body of work I call PSYCH-KTM.


3 This information is called a Core Belief Balance and is taught in the Advanced PSYCH-K Integration Workshop.


As you can see from this example, PSYCH-K was created more out of inspiration than perspiration. It wasn’t a laborious, intellectual process of discovery, but instead arrived in a series of “blinding flashes of the obvious.” In reality, years of experiences and hundreds of books had prepared me for those “blinding flashes.” Over those several months, the belief change techniques that make up the total PSYCH-K process came to me in separate “packages” of insights.


I was skeptical at first. After all, this new way of changing broke every rule I had been taught in graduate school about counseling. It violated the assumptions of mainstream psychology that had prevailed for more than fifty years. So before using this new approach with my clients, I experimented with these new patterns using willing friends and myself. The results were often dramatic and life changing. Eventually, with a proven track record, I began to use the techniques with my counseling clients. The successes continued. With PSYCH-K, I was able to facilitate many changes with my clients in just a few sessions. Changes that took months or even years to achieve with traditional methods were happening in just three to six sessions with PSYCH-K. Eventually skepticism yielded to experience. It was working. It wasn’t long before I had arranged the techniques into a workshop format and was teaching them to others. It was gratifying to see how easily people of all ages and walks of life were learning and using this new approach to personal change. What’s more, it seemed so effortless!


Chapter 2


When Getting There Isn’t Half the Fun


No pain, no gain.

— Myth of Western Civilization


Letting Go of the Struggle


Let’s face it: Most people live in a “try harder” world. It has been the prevailing paradigm of Western civilization for the past millennium. True, it is possible to experience tremendous satisfaction in overcoming obstacles and challenges with sheer willpower and effort. That’s the kind of satisfaction in overcoming obstacles and challenges with sheer willpower and effort. That’s the kind of satisfaction athletes get by becoming the best in their field through extreme physical training. It’s the rush of the mountain climber when he or she reaches the peak of a difficult climb. It’s the feeling of accomplishment when a performer enjoys a standing ovation after years of discipline and practice. It’s when getting there is half the fun that effort and willpower are desirable agents in achieving our goals in life.


However, when you are faced with the debilitating reality of self-defeating behaviors, habits and thoughts that just won’t yield to flapping your wings harder against the windowpane of life, then getting there isn’t half the fun. Willpower and determination are fine if they can actually move you through an obstacle to the freedom waiting on the other side. Unfortunately, most habitual thoughts and behavior patterns don’t change with more effort. Willpower and determination become a misdirected and often painful struggle. They become part of the problem rather than part of the solution.


If what you need is a caring, compassionate listener with the ability to help you develop insights into the cause of your problems and create new strategies for improving your life, then a good talk-therapist is ideal. He or she can provide a safe haven from an otherwise hostile world or provide understanding and support during difficult times. However, when it comes to helping clients implement strategies and insights, the statistics for talk-therapy are less than spectacular. For example, studies to determine the overall effectiveness of such therapies concluded that approximately 30 percent of patients treated for depression showed lasting improvement using insight-based talk therapy.4 In my private practice, those percentages held true for other behavioral and emotional problems as well. Other studies showed that given enough time, about 30 percent of patients overcame their difficulties without any psychotherapy whatsoever!


4 John Horgan, The Undiscovered Mind, New York : The Free Press, 1999, Pgs.188-189


I found this level of effectiveness (or ineffectiveness) to be unacceptable. My business sense was demanding a more effective rate of return on my clients’ counseling dollars.



How Many Psychotherapists Does It Take to Change a Light Bulb?


This joke emphasizes how important effort and determination are in the standard talk-therapy approach to change. Jokes like this one usually contain a kernel of truth. That’s what makes them funny.


So, “How many psychotherapists does it take to change a light bulb?”

“Only one, but the light bulb has to really want to change!”


People seeking psychotherapy usually do so after exhausting their personal efforts to overcome the problems they bring to a therapist. In other words, they have already tried to make a change. They are looking for some other tools to achieve their goal, besides the “try harder” model. The problem is that insight, even combined with action and willpower, is seldom sufficient to make lasting changes. Knowing the cause of a problem seldom changes its effect.


The Limitations of Insight


My experience in practicing insight-based talk-therapy was fairly typical of other practitioners of the art. After weeks or even months of talking about the problem, gaining new insights into its cause and specifying new behavioral strategies, little change took place. Put another way, after all was said and done, more was usually said than done.


The fact is that mainstream psychotherapy has been looking in the wrong place for the answers it needs to solve the problem.


Looking for the Keys


Do you know the story about the drunk who had lost his car keys at night and was looking for them under a street lamp?


A passerby notices the man crawling around on his hands and knees. He stops and asks the guy, “What are you doing?” The man replies, “I am looking for my car keys.” The passerby asks, “Where did you lose them?” The drunk replies, “Over there in the alley.” Surprised, the passerby asks, “Why are you looking under the street lamp if you lost your keys in the alley?” The drunk replies, “Because the light’s better over here!”


They keys to meeting the challenges of the human mind aren’t usually found where the light shines the brightest (at the conscious level of insight). Although insight may shed light on the origins of a problem and provide some constructive strategies for redirecting your life, it seldom changes the situation or the dysfunctional behaviors.


In the dim alley of the subconscious mind is where the real keys to lasting change can be found.


Shedding Light on the Subconscious Mind


Because the subconscious mind has more often been thought of as a frightening rather than a helpful place to visit, it is important to rethink the true nature of the subconscious in a more “user-friendly” fashion. If you think of the subconscious as being more like the hard drive in your personal computer, a place for storing past memories, rather than Dante’s Inferno filled with evil demons who have unthinkable desires just waiting to destroy your life, you will find it a more inviting place to visit. (Some people do seem to have an actual computer hard drive that is like Dante’s Inferno!) If you suspect your subconscious mind is like Dante’s Inferno, keep reading. It’s not as bad as you think.


Sometimes I AM My Own Worst Enemy


Everyone has been his or her own worst enemy at one time or another. You notice it when you set a goal and can’t seem to achieve it, because you keep sabotaging yourself. It happens when you know you need to get a job done, but you continually procrastinate. It happens when you know you should keep your mouth shut, but can’t seem to stop yourself, so you blurt out something you regret later. You become aware of it when you hear yourself saying, “I just couldn’t help myself,” after giving in to a habit you have been trying to quit. These kinds of situations usually result in further feelings of frustration and humiliation.


Most people overidentify with their conscious mind. It is the part of you that represents the “I” in most personal statements, for example, “I feel happy,” or “I want to go to the movies.” In fact, the “I” of the conscious mind provides the source for affirmations, positive thinking, and willpower. By understanding some key differences between the conscious and subconscious minds, you’ll be able to see why the results you had hoped for by using these and other conscious approaches often fall short of your desires and expectations.


Here are some of the key differences:




          Volitional: Sets goals and judges results.

          Thinks abstractly: Likes new, creative ideas and activities

          Time-bound: Is past and future focused. It often looks for new ways to do things based on past experiences and future goals.

          Short-term memory: About 20 seconds in the average human being.5


Gratitude and Appreciation

Words and expression of GRATITUDE and APPRECIATION throughout each and every day will leave less space for NEGATIVE thoughts!

Change Your Thoughts and Change Your Life!

How many times do things happen in our lives that we don’t particularly like?  Did you know that YOUR thoughts CREATE YOUR life?  So, essentially, it’s YOU that creates EVERYTHING (pleasant and unpleasant) in YOUR LIFE!  Take FULL responsibility and CHANGE your thoughts, so that you can CHANGE Your LIFE…TODAY!  😀

Peace and Blessings to All!